Humor is beer goggles for women
Humor is beer goggles for women
Why 'You People' makes some men so angry
Astrology Twitter drives me crazy, primarily because I was Astrology Twitter in my 20s. In fact, I went so hard over zodiac signs that I planned to date a man of every single (sun) sign just to see if the descriptions match. Some did, some didn’t. Some were so general that they could’ve fit every single sign. But there were three lessons I learned that I’ll never forget: 1) Virgo men give me a fawking headache, 2) Dating a Scorpio man will require setting aside bail money (because I’m a Scorpio too), 3) Both of these statements go down the drain if either of the two (or the other 10 signs) are funny.
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I don’t care what astrology sign you are, how short you are, how tall you are, what your upbringing was like or even what your job is. If you can make me laugh, you’re a solid 5 out of 10 — and you can only go up from there. Women who are naturally intense (read: me) and spend a great deal of time focused on serious topics such as racism, culture, crime, news, law and other non-fun topics need an outlet. The last thing a woman like myself wants to do is date someone who keeps the debate going after work hours. And I know a host of other women who agree, some of whom are now married and/or are dating funny men.
Like it or not, “You People” is realistic
While men on Twitter (and other social media platforms) continue to gripe about how the Jonah Hills of the world would never be able to date the Lauryn Londons of the world, that’s simply not true. As I said on Twitter, “Humor is like beer goggles for women.”
I have watched women who were completely uninterested in a less-attractive funny man in action. If that guy is good (and keeps the Dad jokes to a minimum or — my suggestion — doesn’t tell them at all), he will make her laugh again and again and again. She’s not even doing that thing some women do where they laugh unnecessarily loud at horrendous jokes; she is genuinely tickled by this guy. At some point, he’s going to go from “not my type” to “I like his [insert random feature]” to “He’s kinda cute” to “I like who I like and that’s my business.”
Most of the men I’ve dated look like they fell out of a barbershop catalog or a fashion magazine, and often I gravitate toward both. In at least 90% of those cases, while they were smoother than my dog Junee’s hair, me and those dudes were butting heads over every possible thing. Meanwhile, the handful of men I dated who cracked me up are still men I’d greet on the street with a big hug and “How’s it going?”
I’m so into funny men that I’ve listened to podcasters who had guests on their shows who made me laugh so hard that I looked those men up. I’d already decided they were going to be at least a 5 no matter what I saw. Sometimes I was pleasantly surprised. Other times they remained a 5. But they damn sure left a positive impression for making me crack up without seeing their faces.
Is the real gripe interracial dating?
While there are moviegoers who will hate Kenya Barris’ and Jonah Hill’s “You People” movie because it romanticizes interracial dating, there’s nothing Barris and Hill can do about that. This same crew could’ve seen “Loving,” “Something New” and/or “Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner” and despised those movies too. While they will complain about Jonah Hill looking like an everyday white guy, the “he can’t pull her” argument doesn’t work on clearly handsome Ashton Kutcher (or Simon Baker).
Recommended Read: “The Kenya Barris hate needs to stop ~ Why Cancel Culture (and biracial gripers) may want to read more and talk less”