Dating is hard, but stop letting online dating app users manipulate you
Dating is hard, but stop letting online dating app users manipulate you
If your new beau is asking for money, swipe left and keep it moving
Writer’s note: This post was originally published on Medium’s “We Need to Talk” in July 2021.
Whenever people ask me do I speak another language, I usually confirm that I’m bilingual. I took eight years of Spanish classes from eighth grade to college, but that’s not what I’m talking about. I speak English. I also speak Money. Part of it is being raised by a credit union manager mother and a bank customer service rep father. Then there’s the CD- and stock-investing grandfather. That bled over to my view of money in general.
But really, it’s just a deal-breaker for me. No topic can gain my interest more and make me distance myself from you quicker than money. So I’m always confused by people on dating apps who get swindled by gold-diggers and users.
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A friend of mine called me recently, telling me about a very attractive man she’d met on a dating app. I told her she was braver than me to even humor the idea of in-person dating during a worldwide health outbreak, but go awf. Every single time they’d hang out, she’d notice she was being asked for a little bit more — constantly cooking for him and buying all groceries, him doing laundry at her place, him using her lobby gym, him asking for moving expenses to leave his prior place, and so on and so on. It wouldn’t have been as big of a deal if it was mutual, but the favors were one-sided. Listening to her was giving me deja vu. I’ve been in her situation before, but on a lower scale.