Angry, single people on dating apps: Log off
Tirades about how much you hate (wo)men will not get you into relationships
Writer’s note: This post was originally published on Medium’s “We Need to Talk” on July 21, 2021.
Imagine walking into a job interview and complaining about what an asshole your last boss was. Talk about every single time he got on your nerves. Then get on social media and leave public tweets complaining about how these folks had the audacity to not give you the job, after you called them all kinds of names and criticized the entire industry. Would you recommend doing this? Would you consider it “invasive” if the hiring manager and/or industry paid attention to your public tweets and saw you doing it? Would they be wrong? My answer: No. My other answer: If you think that’s a ridiculous thing to do, why do entirely too many of you do it on dating apps?
I update social media channels for a dating app, and I’m always amazed at the amount of people who are complaining about how much men and women suck, and how they’re going to stick to hanging out with their dogs and cats. Clearly I’m a fan of hanging out with dogs (and some cats aren’t so bad). But then the follow-up tweets are about how miserable they are being single and why they’re joining dating apps. All I can do is hang my head at the timing.
Today I read a rant from a woman complaining about men on online dating sites, and emphasizing how much she prefers boxed wine and cats over them. When a dating app reached out to her and mentioned that they have cat-loving members, she lashed out at the account about “reading comprehension” and seeing this reply as “being invasive.” Even worse, this was a lawyer — saying this on a public platform, on a social media site and for all of the world to read.
Of all the professionals in the world, lawyers should be very well-versed in fair use rights (and business-to-consumer marketing). And the irony of complaining about “reading comprehension” while incorrectly using the word “invasive” (meaning “tending to spread especially in a quick or aggressive manner”) startled me a little. But while the box wine drinking, cat-loving lawyer is the person I’m speaking about now, she’s not alone. I’ve written 62 online dating reviews for another client, and I keep running into these angry social media users and online dating members.