Your animosity toward single women is weird
Roe vs. Wade leak: If you’re happy and you know it, why are you the Vagina Moderator?
Writer’s note: This post was originally published on Medium’s “We Need to Talk” and has been moved to the new Substack blog in May 6, 2022.
The hoops some women jump through to please society astounds me. If she has mutual, unprotected sex with a man who is fully aware that pregnancy is a risk they’re both taking, she’s “trapping” him. If she chooses to be sexually responsible every single time, she’s considered a prude for opting out of “just slipping the head in” or accused of “cheating” for always preferring condom use. If she’s opting out of having kids altogether, she’s rumored to be a lesbian with cats or a “feminist” and an “independent woman” with the sole goal of trying to wear the “pants” in the relationship.
If you have the “happy wife, happy life” and you have the child(ren) and the deed to the new home, what do you gain from being the Vagina Moderator?
Even if she’s the best wife and the best mother, she can be ridiculed as “boring” and “trying to make him commit too early.” In every scenario, the woman is wrong. And for women who keep trying to do circus tricks to get past these obstacles, your patience level is better than mine. I started wagging my middle finger at it all before I even graduated from college and said, “I’m going to do what the fawk I want to do. Join me or get out of my way.”
But the Supreme Court leak trying to dismantle Roe vs. Wade is the sniper I wasn’t ready to duck away from. According to the Politico exclusive, in Judge Samuel A. Alito Jr.’s draft decision, he states that “Roe and Casey must be overruled … It is time to heed the Constitution and return the issue of abortion to the people’s elected representatives.”
Four other Republican-appointed justices — Amy Coney Barrett, Neil Gorsuch, Brett Kavanaugh and Clarence Thomas — agreed. Meanwhile, the three Democratic-appointed justices — Stephen Breyer, Elena Kagan and Sonia Sotomayor are working on one or more dissents, according to the person who leaked the report to Politico. Even less surprising (to black women anyway) is Newsmax blamed the leak on Judge Ketanji Jackson, even though her predecessor Judge Breyer doesn’t step down until the summer.
Matt Gaetz has entered the chat … to say something dumb
Somehow though, what still throws me off — regardless of not being willing to jump through the made-up expectations of women — is the animosity of women who won’t fall in line. Enter Matt Gaetz, the same guy the FBI investigated for sex trafficking.