I’ll take the handyman over the man in the suit
The things women in their 30s find sexy that may not happen in their 20s
Writer’s note: This post was originally published on Medium’s “We Need to Talk” on October 1, 2020.
I walked toward my kitchen to grab a glass of water and saw him squatting in my bathroom. I stopped and just stared. It wasn’t that he was naked. No surprise there considering why I wanted the water in the first place. It wasn’t even that he was squatting — no, not in a TMI kinda way. It was that he was squatting in my bathroom fixing a towel rack. I didn’t ask the man to do this. I didn’t even bring it up. I knew it was loose and planned to get around to it, but he just glanced at it and couldn’t help himself. He was a renovation worker.
I knew (courtesy of my grandfather, who built his house from the ground up, and my godfather, a mechanic) that handymen don’t really take the day off. They can’t ignore something that needs to be fixed anymore than an editor/writer like me can ignore a deadline; it’s in our blood.
I hear all the time that women love men in suits. We love men who are tall, dark and handsome. We love men with a great sense of humor. College-educated women like me are delighted to meet university grads. This is all very true. But I’ve dated every last one of those men and still didn’t want to marry any of them (minus a kindergarten crush). Even though I have never particularly been intrigued by the idea of being a bride, I could’ve proposed to the man right there just for fixing that towel rack without me asking him to.